I'm a list maker. Several months ago, I made some lists like these:
A. Reasons Not to Have Another Child | B. Reasons To Have Another Child |
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In the beginning, Option B was a long shot. List A was twice as long as List B. Moreover, Item A:1 was particularly compelling to me, since I had always intended to avoid the risks of bearing children after age 35 by simply not doing that.
But then Item A:3 was surprisingly easily resolved and crossed off the list. Now List A was up by only one. And while Item A:2 was a valid logistical concern, it seemed a bit too superficial to take very seriously, resulting in a virtual tie.
Taking a closer look at List B, Item B:1 was absolutely necessary if we were to go with Option B, but in another way, it also seemed superficial, especially when considered in light of Item A:4.
Item B:2 is what finally swayed me toward Option B. I have two sisters myself and I really like having sisters. There are many advantages to sisterhood. I wanted that for my daughter.
Of course, I knew that even if I had another baby, I could outnumber my daughter even more by producing yet another boy instead of a girl. In fact, this would be the most likely outcome, since 51% of American babies are boys.
The fact that obtaining a more even gender mix in my family was the most logical reason for having another child, coupled with my own personal preference for having a second girl instead of a third boy, seemed to guarantee to me that this last child would certainly turn out to be a boy.
So I wasn't surprised when I looked at my baby in the ultrasound and saw that extra appendage.
But I was disappointed.
I'll get over it.
I really enjoyed this post. I laughed at the end because I hadn't read the title of the post or looked at the pictures. I had seen them, but in my mind I just saw ultrasounds without paying attention. I wanted to hear what you had to say first, which made it that much more enjoyable because I was waiting for the decision and determination of gender. It was a lot of fun to read that way! Congratulations, disappointment and all!
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